Thursday, 20 September 2012

Trials and tribulations


I thought I may be short of things to write about now that the cricket has ended, well the season has ended but the cricket goes on...and on...and on!

This week has seen the start of the County Trials for both my boys. I find this harder than they do! They could have had a wonderful season, played superbly and then their selection for the County squad is based on a few sessions in the indoor nets. No outdoor fielding, no fitness tests, just batting and bowling in a school sports hall.

Number 2 son has played for the county for four years now and his elder brother has trialled every year before and after his brothers selection and has not yet been successful. I find it very difficult and am amazed that he wants to carry on with the trials. It is very definitely his descision and not ours, he does so want to be in the squad.

There was one particularly difficult year which I'll never forget.

The two age groups handled the selection process very differently and number 1 son's trials had ended and we were to be informed by letter of the outcome. Number 2 son's coaches decided to choose the squad and tell the boys face to face on the day of their final session. You can guess what happened, unfortunately I didn't forsee it. Number 1 son arrived home from school to find a letter waiting, he had done particularly well that year but was up against some very good cricketers. He opened the letter to find he'd been unsuccessful, and then within an hour we had to be at number 2 son's trial where he was told he'd been selected.

We didn't know whether to celebrate or comiserate. To give him his due number 1 son was and always has been very proud and supportive of his younger brother, but it was so hard. I think I shed a few tears at the time.

And every year we go through it again. Number 1 son unsuccessful and number 2 selected. Number 1 son is a talented sportsman but doesn't have that self belief or the drive and motivation. Number 2 has drive and motivation by the bucket load!

So the trials started this week, I'm not sure when they'll end as there are stages and if you get put through to all of them it could end as late as March 2013! Oh dear I'll be a nervous wreck by then!

I'll keep everything crossed but I do expect the same outcome as in previous years I'm afraid.

16 comments:

  1. Oh it sounds rather busy in your household how do you get by with all the muddy washing? It would drive me insane. We can say goodbye to the British summer. Sad news about number 1 son it must of been very difficult for you all :( x

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    1. The washing isn't too bad, mainly because they forget to remove it from there bags for a couple of weeks at a time!!

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  2. Hoping for good news for both, keeping fingers crossed.
    Lisa x

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  3. Fingers crossed Jay, hope they both get through! Xxx

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  4. ugh!! That's what I am scared of in the future...one succeeding and not the other!! It would be so hard...on both of them! Wishing you all the best of luck that both get through!!

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  5. oh gosh, that is tough. Hope all goes well for both of them this time round.

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  6. Hmm...tricky. Lack of self belief has such a huge part to play in life. I hope there's a happy outcome.

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  7. oh yes. I know exactly what you mean. Unfortunatley. and it tears at my heart like i cannot describe.
    my youngest saw the household drama in competition and decided to do sports that none of his brothers did..and he only compares himself to himself. at 10, he is probably the smartest of them all.
    good luck to all of you!!

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    1. I think thats definitely the way forward for Little Miss, be good at gymnastics & forget cricket!

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  8. That must be so hard - both for you as a mother and for your son when his younger brother is successful at something he also strives for. You say that your older son doesn't have drive and motivation, but just to keep trying shows that he is full of tenacity and doesn't give up without a fight - both amazing qualities that will no doubt get him far in life. Will keep my fingers crossed that this year he is successful x

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    1. Thank you Caroline, you've made me see number 1 son a little differently today & you're right.

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  12. We are in exactly the same position chez nous, there is a big gap between one and two and the only reason two is such a star, is that one played with him for hours and hours when he was tiny. Hopefully if number one is happy to accept a bit of the success of number two as his own, it makes any rejection less painful.

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